The other person is never at fault in any way. His belief is that the world is the source of all happiness, and that is correct. If you try to convince them otherwise, the fault is yours. People have a tendency to find fault in others. No one is at fault. Whatever unhappiness you experience, arises within you. People around you, such as your family, strive to make you happy. Your wife takes so much care when she cooks for you. You are not even aware of the painstaking effort your family makes in order to put food on your table. Each morsel of bread you eat is made from flour, which they themselves grind from wheat. Prior to grinding the wheat they have sorted out pieces of gravel by hand from it. If it were their intention to make you miserable, why would they bother doing all this?
You should never look another person's faults. When you do this, you are spoiling your life in the world. You should only look at your own faults. Every event and circumstance is the fruit of your own karma, so is there anything left to be said? People go around accusing, criticizing and finding fault with each other and yet they sit together to dine. This is what perpetuates vengeance, and vengeance is the reason this world exists. That is why I tell you to settle your dealings with everyone, with equanimity so that vengeance comes to an end.
1) Until one sees his own faults, till then he cannot become God.
2) As long as you see faults of the world, you will have to wander around, and when you see the world as flawless, you will have liberation.
"People's faults are their gutters. Even the gutters in the streets are kept covered. A young child knows not to keep the gutters and sewers open. If you have a kitchen, surely you will have a gutter outside and you will always keep the gutter covered with a lid. People have certain faults; a person may be cranky or angry - to look at their negative qualities, is equivalent to opening up a sewer. It is better to look at their good qualities instead. You only need to look at your own gutter and keep it clean, so it does not clog up. People do not realize that their drains are clogging up, and if they did, would they know how to take care of the problem?
They reach their limitations, and that is why all the disease sets in. Through reading the scriptures they learn to say, "You should not speak ill of others!" And although they go around exclaiming this, the underlying gossiping continues. Whenever you utter even the slightest negativity about anyone, you have undoubtedly caused damage. No one opens the lids of the outside physical gutters, but people tend to keep opening other people's gutters.
Book Name : The Flawless Vision (Page #27 Last Paragraph and Page #28 Paragraph #1,#2)
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