Questioner: Fear (bhaya), self preservation instinct (bhaya sangnya), what are these? How do they arise? How do they charge and discharge?
Dadashri: One experiences fear to whatever degree he believes himself to be temporary.
Questioner: I did not understand what you mean about one believing himself to be temporary.
Dadashri: 'I am Chandubhai*' is a temporary state and, when one believes he is 'Chandubhai*,' then he will be subject to fear. 'I am Shuddhatma - the pure Soul, nothing at all can happen to Me, I am eternal'; with this awareness, what is there to fear?
Questioner: Then there is no fear.
Dadashri: The experience of 'temporary' applies to non- Indians to a greater degree as compared to Indians. This is because of the belief of doership. 'I am the doer and these actions are of my own doing.' So here (in Indians) there is less fear. Non-Indians fly away like startled birds!
*Chandubhai = Whenever Dadashri uses the name 'Chandubhai' or the name of the person Dadashri is addressing, the reader should insert his or her name for exact understanding.
1) What is the reason for fear? You consider yourself as temporary; Fear vanishes with the understanding - vision of 'I am the eternal Self'!
2) Soul is endowed with resultant bliss! One himself is Soul, no one else can take its happiness away from him. One is free of all pain and suffering by nature. He has tremendous (powerful) grandeur (splendor)! How can any misery affect him?
3) The root cause of all miseries of this worldly life is your own 'blunders' - Not knowing your Real Self (atma), and by believing that you are Chandubhai* you have made the one fundamental mistake upon which a series of mistakes continue to take place.
1) From dislike (dwesh) -> scorn (tiraskar) -> fear
If a man dislikes his wife, he will see many mistakes in her and will harp on her negative points. This constant faultfinding leads to scorn (tiraskar). The scorn leads to fear. He will experience fear in certain interactions with her and when he sees her, he feels a sense of suffocation and uneasiness. We all tend to be afraid of those or that which we dislike intensely. All this is a result of scorn. In order to break free from this feeling of contempt, one has to keep asking for forgiveness. Even though the other person may not be aware of it, you have to continue asking for forgiveness from within.
2) Attain Perfection Through Abstinence From Retaliation
In this world, any person that harms you in any way is simply an 'instrument'. You are responsible because you suffer the damage. In reality, this world is truly independent and no one can interfere with another. And if this were not so, there would be no end to people's fear and no one would achieve liberation. Even Lord Mahavir would not have attained liberation. Lord Mahavir was completely impervious to any feelings projected towards him by others. People's feelings towards him ranged from reverence to contempt; from love to sexual desire; from respect to insult. Nothing affected him. There was no element of retaliation in him to anything. The one who is free from retaliation attains final liberation. The one who retaliates has to stay behind to suffer the consequences.
The world will go on binding you with all sorts of negative and positive feelings. If a pickpocket sees you putting money in your pocket at a train station, would he not make the intent to steal it? And suppose you were to suddenly board the train as it was pulling away, leaving the pickpocket behind, even though he missed the opportunity to steal your money, he still formulated the intent to steal and this will bind him for new karma effects.
Everyone in the world is going to have such positive or negative inner intent but if there is no retaliation from you then you will be left alone. If you do not put your own intent in others' intent, no one in the world can bind you; otherwise there would be no end to it.
Book Name: Pratikraman Full Version: (Page #217 - Paragraphs #10,#11; Page #218 - Paragraphs #1,#2,#3,#4,#5)
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